Couples Conversations: Sex Lives Can Lead To Healthy Marriages

A number of couples restrict themselves from talking about sexuality and their sex lives. Some are shy while others are reluctant to open up with their respective partners. This approach to sexuality can lead to ruined marriages.  Sexuality is one of the key factors in having a healthy marriage. Sex is not just about satisfying each other's libido or sexual desires.  More than that, it is about effective communication and intimacy.  Robert Holden, a doctor who specializes in emotional health, says that, “...one of the big mistakes we make in relationships is that we don't give our best energy to the people that matter most. And I think that people should make time to be able to give some of their best energy to each other.” Both partners should look forward to an entirely satisfying sex life along with the emotional connection that it entails. 

According to many health and marriage experts, it is normal for couples to encounter difficulties in their sexual relationship. Some of the common problems couples may encounter are boredom, lack of intimacy, low sexual desires, and lack of  passion in sex. Another cause may be the failure of one partner to perform according to the expectations of the other party.  Whatever the reason for the sexual issues, they take a toll on the emotional and physical condition of both the individual and the couple. 

Health experts believe that one's lifestyle— including food intake, daily work and domestic routines, and level of  physical fitness can increase libido, improve your sex life, and possibly help address issues such as erectile dysfunction and female sexual dysfunction.

Eating a diet rich in colorful, antioxidant-rich fruits and vegetables is great for good overall health, which in turn can help increase your libido and improve your sex life.

Caffeine is a vasoconstrictor, which means it may have a negative effect on blood flow. While there is no definitive proof linking caffeine, to erectile dysfunction or female sexual arousal disorder, doctors do know that keeping consumption to moderate levels may be the best practice when it comes to libido and a healthy sex life.

In excess, alcohol is a depressant and can exacerbate anxiety. Keeping alcohol consumption to a moderate level is recommended. This means one drink a day for women, two for men.

Lack of sleep has been linked to erectile dysfunction and female sexual response problems. 

Stress raises cortisol and adrenaline levels, which can interfere with sex response hormones.

Routine exercise keeps the cardiovascular system healthy, important for libido and erections. Exercise can also increase levels of sex hormones as well as endorphins, helping men and women feel better, and improve body image.

Studies show that frequent sex between married couples lowers feelings of insecurity and increases the level of commitment. The whole process deepens their physical intimacy and strengthens their bond of love. Understanding sex between married partners may lead to improved and fruitful marriages.   Openness, willingness to experiment, and mutual trust should be the cornerstones of a healthy, active sex life between married couples.  After all, love is supposed to be fun and exciting!